I’VE STARTED ONLINE
DATING
After
months of encouragement and endless “I know someone who met their husband on
one of those websites”, I finally decided to make my match.com profile.
(1)
Making the profile
Let me tell you, making an online
profile was not an easy task for me.
Describing myself and my ideal match was not something that quickly
rolled off my tongue. More importantly,
it made me really take time to evaluate what it is I wanted from my future mate
and what I had to offer this mate of mine.
It has made me quite self-aware, constantly asking myself, what would
make me happy? Am I happy now? Do I like nights out at the bar? Do I like live
music? What do I like to do and is that
the person I want to be.
My strategy has been to keep my
profile brief. Using the old adage from
graduate school, “show don’t tell”.
Instead of being outgoing, I am someone who can engage in conversations
with anyone. Instead of being fun, I am
someone who believes in laughter every day.
I’ve tried to be very honest and highlight the importance of my friends
and puppy!
(2)
Realistic Expectations
I am constantly setting
quantifiable goals. When I first entered
the website, I had this idea that my inbox would be flooded with messages from
prospective candidates. After all, my
married friends had told me constantly, “Your young, your beautiful, your
successful, any guy would be lucky to have you.” WRONG!
I’ve been on the site for about a month and have received very few messages
from men. And of those messages
received, none have been interesting to me.
But rather than let this activity crush my ego, I have decided that my
goal in this online dating is to find me, reward me, and discover what I want
in the future. At first, I committed to
sending 5 e-mails a day but that was nuts!
Now, my goal is to send 5 e-mails per week and trust that I will get
responses from some interested guys.
More to follow as the dates start
to occur (hopefully)….one things for sure, online dating and online shopping
sure do have a lot in common.
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